Ooh, she's pretty. She smiled at me when we came in to the restaurant...but then, that's her job, she's supposed to be nice to customers. But she seemed to linger a little longer than necessary at our table, and she asked me about my tattoo. I wonder if she's a good kisser. I wonder if she likes the same music I do. We could go on a date at the bowling alley, and I'd make her laugh by showing off my powerful between-the-legs granny bowling style. I'll be she'd lean in to me and laugh, and I'd…Read more→
Imagine you're on a date where you have only 100 words in common. How do you communicate?
Last spring my friend T.S. traveled to Costa Rica to study Spanish. After some drama involving his roommate and the woman his roommate brought back to the hotel, Marlena, T.S. took Marlena out for breakfast. Normally, this would make for an unremarkable first date, except neither person spoke the other's language. Not very well, anyway.
What can you say without words?
I realized the importance…Read more→
A family friend will graduate high school next year, and I've been pondering what will make a thoughful graduation card. A gift is easy—cash or gift cards are always appreciated. But what is the best message I can give them?
I'm 40 years old at this writing. I don't consider myself a wise old soul, but I have lived long enough to reflect on what has been most helpful to my own personal development. Here are four tips for younger readers.
To the extent that I've had…Read more→
Comedian Louie C.K. is known for being brutally honest, crass and insightful, sometimes all three in the same four-minute span. In this clip, he explains why he won't get smartphones for his daughters, detouring on a rant about texting while driving, Bruce Springsteen, and the privilege of feeling sadness.
Louis C.K. claims we use our smartphones as an emotional crutch, and he's right. Until very recently, it wasn't possible to have the sum of the internet, along with access to almost…Read more→
Last spring I took an Introduction to Improv class with a group of three others. It was a very brief introduction to this comedic form, but I already picked up on its connection to mindfulness and serendipity, and I see why pickup artists like Neil Strauss made the study of improv part of their "training". Improve prepares you to work with what you've got; to be spontaneous; to go with the flow.
The first exercise is a "make a sentence game". Your group stands in a row, and the first person…Read more→